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Take Pleasure

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Neil Durrant
May 23, 2025
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My beloved shopping with me in Paris

I’m one of those strange men who likes fashion and shopping. It’s not something I talk about a lot, especially with other men. And, to make it even more difficult, the place where I like to shop is a long way from the small country town I live in. It takes 30+ hours to travel from rural NSW to Paris, France.

I often wonder why it’s difficult to talk about this kind of thing. I’m sure it’s a complicated story about the society I live in and my own personality and history. To mention this enjoyment of mine smacks of privilege, it suggests a wealthy upbringing, it seems unmanly, and, perhaps above all, it sounds pretentious.

Behind all of those “reasons” I think there might be just one issue. The society that I live in has a problem with pleasure. There’s something about admitting to indulging in these seemingly superficial pleasures that creates a sense of shame and a need to justify yourself.

So what is it about pleasure that has become such a problem?

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